In any romantic comedy there are words and phrases - in between all the shits and giggles - that really put into perspective the true meaning of LOVE. One such phrase lingers in my mind now and comes from 'Wedding Crashers' of all movies. "Love is our soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another." How beautiful is that?!!! I can't think of any other way to define what LOVE really and truly is. Of course, the irony is obvious. In the movie, there are two guys in their 30s crashing weddings in order to catch women at their most vulnerable states - while caught up in the trance of living happily ever after with their own knights in shining armour. Britany Spears has a name for these types of guys.
"Womanizer. Womanizer. Oh baby, you're a womanizer. .."
But despite living the stereotypes of a guy never being able to commit to anything (let alone a relationship) those same words echo in me now louder than ever as Valentine's Day nears. No, not "Womanizer. Womanizer..." The other phrase - "Love is our soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another." When reason and meaning finally settles in a guy's slow-moving brain he wants nothing more than to settle down and live happily ever after with his own soul's counterpoint. So just as it is natural for us guys to want to hook up with as many chicks as possible, and have 'hoes, in every areaaa codes... Hooooes...' (Ludacris), we also do have the ability to be the loving companion that girls want us to be.
Hey, if the 2 guys in Wedding Crashers can do it, then there is hope for mankind yet!
- TGF
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Friday, February 6, 2009
What he really thinks?
Guys have committment issues. Period.
No matter how many times he tells you he loves you he will hesitate more times at the thought of marriage than a girl would. I'm sure there's a scientific explanation for it all but trust me, from a guy's perspective this is an irrefutable truth.
But just like in everything there are those unlike the norm and that do not jump on the bandwagon of the 'marriage / commitment scare.' So why then are some men scared?? As a good friend of mine told me one night as we headed to his car with his fiancee only a half a meter away from us, men are scared because, "... well, it's forever." Because it is forever. Forever.... The word has a universal meaning in any dictionary you pick up, but the interpretation of the word is very, very different.
Forever to a girl implies a fairy tale ending - a Cinderella, Snow White, knight in shining armor saving the damsel in distress from the big bad dragon and living happily ever after kind of forever...
Most guy's Forever is not so vivid and clear. We see a whirlpool, a bottom-less well, a pitch-black room, an unknown, a life sentence where our hands and legs are chained and every girl that passes by is someone that we shoulda, coulda, woulda had we not cornered ourselves to Forever...
It sounds extreme but the fact of the matter is I've lived long enough (thank God) to see and hear what guys really think and feel. Again, there are those that are abberations from the norm, but I guarantee you some of the same thoughts and concerns/fears that I've pointed out above will exist in some way, shape or form in 100% of the guys out there - single, married, divorced or re-marrying. Period.
How do I know this? It's simple. Because that's what he really thinks....
Yours truly,
The Guy Friend
No matter how many times he tells you he loves you he will hesitate more times at the thought of marriage than a girl would. I'm sure there's a scientific explanation for it all but trust me, from a guy's perspective this is an irrefutable truth.
But just like in everything there are those unlike the norm and that do not jump on the bandwagon of the 'marriage / commitment scare.' So why then are some men scared?? As a good friend of mine told me one night as we headed to his car with his fiancee only a half a meter away from us, men are scared because, "... well, it's forever." Because it is forever. Forever.... The word has a universal meaning in any dictionary you pick up, but the interpretation of the word is very, very different.
Forever to a girl implies a fairy tale ending - a Cinderella, Snow White, knight in shining armor saving the damsel in distress from the big bad dragon and living happily ever after kind of forever...
Most guy's Forever is not so vivid and clear. We see a whirlpool, a bottom-less well, a pitch-black room, an unknown, a life sentence where our hands and legs are chained and every girl that passes by is someone that we shoulda, coulda, woulda had we not cornered ourselves to Forever...
It sounds extreme but the fact of the matter is I've lived long enough (thank God) to see and hear what guys really think and feel. Again, there are those that are abberations from the norm, but I guarantee you some of the same thoughts and concerns/fears that I've pointed out above will exist in some way, shape or form in 100% of the guys out there - single, married, divorced or re-marrying. Period.
How do I know this? It's simple. Because that's what he really thinks....
Yours truly,
The Guy Friend
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